This is taken from Hannah Arendt’s brilliant book, Responsibility and Judgement.
What is the most central moral question, the one that holds itself against evil’s banality, is never the imperative: ‘thou shalt’ (either in the commandments or from Kant), nor the normative: “I ought”, I “should”, but the I can‘t, which stems from the categorical: “It is better to suffer wrong than to do wrong” (Socrates). It is the I can’t, the things that, however the situation impels, whosoever commands, what ultimate good lies at the end, I am not willing to do because I cannot live with myself once I’ve done it, that is the personally moral. The I can’t is nothing political. It cannot change the world; but it can make us be at peace with ourselves.
Ask oneself: what are my principles; what am I not willing to do; what, within me, overrides any utilitarian concerns. It is those that we have to hold fast to.
It is by no means an easy thing. It is the hardest of all.