You don't want to tear any muscles around your penis. When I'm tired, I should just go back to my dorm, strip naked, shower, and work on my bed (still naked). Say NO to stuff that I'm ambivalent about going. But give things a try for at least 20 minutes. Don't hang out with people … Continue reading 10 Things That I’ve Learnt In the Past Few Weeks
Love doesn't just happen. At first sight, it's at most an idealization. Idealizations are not false. They're just not true. They're like the Constitution without the constituents. Love is more the generation and preservation of attraction through reciprocal effort towards enlarging, strengthening, and losing the self. It's about the hard and beautiful work into maintaining … Continue reading Romance
Love and Life Optimization
It's too complicated to decide how to make the most of life. I've decided to throw all considerations away and leave only Love. Optimize for the capacity to give and receive love. That is, learn to love and be someone who's lovable. This points to... Care for others Listen Tell the truth Write and read … Continue reading Love and Life Optimization
Love, Zen, and Paradoxes
Zen is not what you do, but who you become. In this sense, it's eminently like love. I write this because my friend proposed a paradox in Zen. The logic goes as follows: To practice Zen, you have to desire to be in Zen. People in Zen have no desires. Therefore they won't desire to … Continue reading Love, Zen, and Paradoxes
A desperate attempt to justify the existence of college writing classes by articulating the importance of writing well, in order to make me feel better about how I'm forced to take them instead of the other 3700 courses offered at Harvard. Why Learn Writing? The Short Answer So we can articulate, communicate, and think with … Continue reading Writing Well
Meaning of Life. Reprisal.
A short piece that I wrote for a UChicago friend. She probably didn't expect the reply to be so long when she asked me "What is the meaning of life?" and "What is the meaning of love?" But you don't get what you want in life. You get what you need. "Well, I got an … Continue reading Meaning of Life. Reprisal.
Art, the Antidote to Meaninglessness
Well, one of my UChicago friends asked me this. And here's my reply. I don't think she expected it to be this long. Nor do I believe instagram is designed for this kind of communication, but such is life. Answer to “What is the meaning of life?” and "What is the meaning of love?" I don't … Continue reading Art, the Antidote to Meaninglessness
Mystery. Zoom. Love. Movies
A Strange Idea: The worst crime Zoom classes are committing against humanity is depriving kids those real-life serendipitous opportunities to fall in love.
Man the Maker
What is the antidote to transience? The fact that everything enters and everything goes? The futility that bubbles out of death and dying? What can anchor us and provide us with meaning in the symbolic order of identities, where one thing is equivalent to another? (E.g. money, status, abstractions. Not terrible in themselves, but often … Continue reading Man the Maker
Care. Concern. Love.
"Mom, can you not care about me so much! Just leave me alone!" The above line has been a recurring theme in my teenage years, with an almost-always too-concerned mother (a rather fortunate thing, though I am focusing here on the torturous aspects). What troubled me was the fact that she could not stop caring … Continue reading Care. Concern. Love.